Spanking is illegal… now also in UK produced porn

The British decided to be really British, and banned a slew of sex acts from UK produced porn… The list includes spanking, caning, aggressive whipping, penetration by any object “associated with violence”, physical or verbal abuse (regardless of  if consensual), urolagnia (known as “water sports”), female ejaculation, strangulation, facesitting, and fisting; basically, they banned femdom porn and made me thank the heavenly Lord and all … Continue reading Spanking is illegal… now also in UK produced porn

Don’t single out (homo)sexuality in response to Israel blackmail revelations, Palestinians say

This is a must read for whoever has been commenting or thinking about recent articles concerning Israel’s blackmailing of Palistinians; which, yes, includes issues of sexuality. I find that it is often tempting to detach issues of sexuality from other issues of oppression and colonisation and make all sorts of statements, but it is important to take a step back and listen to those whose … Continue reading Don’t single out (homo)sexuality in response to Israel blackmail revelations, Palestinians say

Normativity and sexuality: a matter of perspective

Spending too much time on facebook makes one stumble on all sorts of funny stuff (and surprisingly, not all of them cat related.) A friend of mine shared this video: It’s one of these topics that I’ve always thought quite hilarious, mostly because it is one of the most confusing and contradictory, especially among lesbians. The topic, here, is lesbians having sex with men, something … Continue reading Normativity and sexuality: a matter of perspective

Okay, “virginilize” is not a word… but still!

Okay, so… According to a new bill proposed in South Africa, women are suppose to be protected from porn. Of course! why didn’t I ever realize this before women would never watch porn, they are all nice ladies who would only have sex because they are good wives (please note my sarcastic tone.) This recent attempt to infantilize women as goody-two-shoes who should be mentally … Continue reading Okay, “virginilize” is not a word… but still!

Sexuality and D66

Sex and Politics… it feels like a Long Island Iced Tea with too much sour mix. Yesterday I gave a workshop about sexuality for D66, a small social-liberal polical party in the Netherlands, together with the Björn van Roozendaal, Chair of IGLYO and Thirza Bronner, Chair of D66 Amsterdam-West. I was asked to talk about sex work and the sex industry in the Netherlands. Personally, … Continue reading Sexuality and D66